Tag: growingup

Letter To My Present Self: My Guide to Early Twenties.

This week I approach my 22nd birthday, another year older and most definitely wiser. You know those years that are filled with consistent highs and pure happiness? Yeah well this year has definitely not been that for me at all! Quite the contrary. But with struggle comes ample growth so I am appreciative.

So here is a letter to my present self, advice about the things to focus on in such a significant part of my life.

Dear Kaitlyn, or at this stage Kaity/Darling…

Right now you are in arguably one of the most lost stages of life, so remember that you are able to deal with circumstances far worse than you ever believe you can. Know that your lowest of lows result in an even higher high. Remember not to compare pain because pain is not relative to circumstance, pain is relative to experience. Your ability to cope with situations is relative to the experiences that have equipped you to deal with them. Forgiveness is strength not weakness and is a lesson that you’re going to learn in order to free yourself.

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WHAT DO YOU WANT TO BE WHEN YOU ‘GROW UP’?

REMEMBER how excited you’d get as a child when you were asked this? The language we used as if it was undoubtedly going to happen. More often than not we would say multiple things of completely different fields and it didn’t even matter the plausibility of them all actually happening. I don’t know about you but at one stage I was going to become a crime scene investigator, ballerina, and professional singer whilst owning a dog rescue shelter.

ballerina

The older we got the more our answers would change. Month to month, year to year. And this to us was fine! Because we were so young and we had so much time to figure it out when we reached that place that everyone referred to as ‘older. We had no shame that it was constantly changing or unknown. Back then when asked the words that resonated with us were ‘want’ and ‘be’. So at what point in our lives does the excitement of not knowing turn to fear and the emphasis changes to the word ‘older’.  Why is it that when we’re asked at the mere age of sixteen when doing senior subject selection does our excitement change to angst of not knowing?

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